What Makes a Good Friend, Especially in College

What Makes a Good Friend, Especially in College

College is a time of great change, and I have learned that even friendship is a part of that. You gain new friends, keep some old, and sometimes you move in different directions. Most of the time those friendships start to look very different as they readjust to fit busy schedules and the miles in between. Nyack College has given me some of the closest relationships of my entire life. I feel blessed to have met some of the best people in the world while here at school. Other people may take a lot more effort to stay in contact with. I left several amazing friends in Ohio when I made the move to New York. Some are still my best friends, but we had to work really hard to fill the gap of not seeing each other very often face to face. Keeping up with people who live hours away requires many texts, phone calls, skype sessions, and even the occasional hand written letters to keep those people involved with your new way of life. And then there are those who you’ve grown apart from whether for the distance or changing interests. In my experience, your entire high school crowd are not going to be your only friends for your entire life. Friendships change and people change, but new people come along and support you as you become more and more the person you were made to be.

My “vast” experience with many different stages and types of friendship has taught me much about what really defines a friend. A good friend above all loves you and cares for your best interest. Loving a friend sounds simple and obvious, but in times of indifference or betrayal it can be the hardest thing in the world. Someday you might have to love in such a way that truly is patient, kind, humble, honest, and keeps no record of wrongs. This kind of love is really hard. But, if a friendship can overcome a challenge and still practice real love then I believe it could last for a lifetime. As I said a good friend also cares about what is in your best interest. They dream your dreams with CTA button for Blog UGyou and then tell you when you are being ridiculous. Friends also let you be yourself and be completely comfortable with what makes you, you. I want to be a person that you can laugh, cry, dance, scream, or sing at the top of your longs and still feel completely secure and loved. Friends change, but also grow. The many lessons of friendship can be hard to learn, but help you to be a better person and to value those good friends you have been blessed with.